Letting Go

In our lives, we have ups and downs, wins and losses, and even periods of relative stability that we might call smooth sailing.  As we get older, we learn to take most of the ups and downs in stride, as we know that, regardless of what is happening, most likely it shall pass.

There are still occurrences that really affect us deeply, though, such as the passing of a loved one.  After a period of time, the pain lessens, but the memory will remain.  For this week’s loss of Darwin, the pain is still all too real and palpable, so I thought I’d share this image with you…

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This image has very special meaning to me, as captured it nearly six years ago during a group night shoot; as I created this photograph, I sensed a change in the space-time fabric, which I could not identify.  In the morning, I found out that a beloved aunt of mine had passed during that night, after a long battle with cancer.

This image is for you, aunt Marlies, and also for you, Darwin.

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9 responses to “Letting Go”

  1. whippetwisdom Avatar

    A beautiful post and photograph Frank and I can relate to the sensing of a change in the space-time fabric – I wrote about this yesterday in a post dedicated to the memory of our nephew Jamie. You may not want to read that post now with Darwin’s loss still so raw, but if you ever want to it is titled ‘Haibun: A Message From The Stars’.

    1. jansenphoto Avatar

      Thank you, Xenia. I will definitely check out you post.

  2. The Showers of Blessing Avatar

    Hi Frank, thank you for sharing your thoughts and photo. Life is fragile, I can identify with that. The photo speaks for our unspoken thoughts and emotions. We had many losses in our family. And my husband lost his best friend a year ago. He sobbed terribly. That was the only time I had seen him cry. Our emotion is not like a faucet that can be turning on and off. We take time to grief. My son-in-law kept his mom’s ashes for a year. He took care of his mom’s dog Oscar. Oscar passed with heart problem within a year. He took mom’s and Oscar’s ashes to the ocean of his mom’s designation!! He has a special place for his mom’s and Oscar’s photos for remembrance. Your last post of Darwin’s photo is so precious!

    1. jansenphoto Avatar

      Miriam, thank you very much. Loss of loved ones is always difficult and I find that it doesn’t get any easier over time.

      1. The Showers of Blessing Avatar

        Yes, it doesn’t. The deeper the love is, the longer the pain, and the nostalgia!

  3. thebenlessard Avatar

    So sorry for your lost, life is fragile as mentioned but we have to make the most of it. Your post is so unique and yet simple, thus making it beautiful, so thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I’ll be sure to check out more of your work!

    1. jansenphoto Avatar

      Thank you very much, I really appreciate it.

  4. the runaway palate Avatar

    Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss. I understand that almost imperceptible moment you mention about the “shift in space-time fabric”. I get a few of those moments too, and it always seems to herald the moment of passing. Life is precious. Always be happy.

    1. jansenphoto Avatar

      Thank you most kindly! It is interesting to see how we all connect on such a very elemental level.

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